Simply because this was a life changing one hour for them. As a trusted friend, she may join the bride when she shops for wedding gowns to find the perfect one. Try to keep your speech at 5 minutes maximum. Shultz, Renowned Motivational Speaker and Author.. Make a maid of honor speech during the reception or party. Before writing these speech samples I have had a number of brainstorming sessions with various renowned public-speakers, wedding specialists and women who have had the honor of being Maids of Honor as well as those who were about to give Maid of Honor Speeches..